|Posted on 7 October, 2019 at 7:25|
THE IMPORTANCE OF FRIENDSHIP - CHAPTER 2
Marriage requires constant effort. A good marriage is built on the unshakeable foundation of compromise, compassion, and loyalty. It demands that you’re true to the vows you took together.
Friendship is important. If you’re friends when you get married, you can remain friends. Good friends support each other and help each other grow spiritually and creatively. Growth requires both gentleness and firmness, even harshness at times, but the ultimate motive must be to help each other grow.
“If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love.” Michel de Montaigne
SOME TIPS TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE FRESH
Ask yourself whether you really know each other. Or have you confused sexual compatibility with “happily ever after”?
Try these positive actions to get to know each other better and still keep your marriage fresh:
➡ If the zing has gone out of your sex life, reignite it. Do something new together in bed.
➡ Pay attention to your appearance. Refrain from showing your partner a sloppy version of yourself, dressed in a worn-out outfit, unshowered, with your hair unkempt. No matter how familiar you are with each other, you can still be the sex symbol you used to be before you got married.
➡ Go on a vacation together, just the two of you. Travel to a romantic getaway and allow the sunrise to breathe more warmth into your relationship. Run barefoot on the beach. Indulge each other with a sensual aromatherapy massage.
➡ Open up and talk to each other about your challenges without losing your temper. Talking about these issues is extremely important, but try doing it in a peaceful, beautiful setting when you’re both relaxed.
➡ Do the things you used to enjoy doing together in the beginning of your relationship. Remember the personality traits that initially attracted you to your spouse. It might be that these qualities are still attractive, but it’s you who has changed.
“In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.” - Robert Anderson